Trailing-Spouse.com
  • About Us
    • Our Philosophy
    • Contributors
    • Contact Us
  • Topics
    • Bucket Listing
    • Career Transitions
    • Driving Distance
    • Expat Experiences
    • Military Moves
    • Trailing Kids
  • Resources
    • Book Club
    • Coaching
Trailing-Spouse.com
  • About Us
    • Our Philosophy
    • Contributors
    • Contact Us
  • Topics
    • Bucket Listing
    • Career Transitions
    • Driving Distance
    • Expat Experiences
    • Military Moves
    • Trailing Kids
  • Resources
    • Book Club
    • Coaching

Playing the Cards You’re Dealt

My full name is Hilda Denize Pinto Samo Gudo Johannsen. Yes, you might want to think twice before asking me to spell it all out! I’m Brazilian, my husband is German, and we have lived in Mozambique, Moldova, Indonesia, and now India. 

Read more

Empty Nest at Home, Full Lives Ahead

For anyone who has spent decades as an expat trailing spouse, seeing your children leave the nest and your husband become a stay-at-home retiree is a major change of life, dynamics and pace.

Read more

Bending, Not Breaking, in Malaysia

My new novel tells the story of the interweaving lives of a British expat woman and her Filipina maid in Malaysia. It’s ultimately a tale of love, belonging and discovery — loosely based on my own experiences as a trailing spouse.

Read more

From Flailing Spouse to Badass Abroad

In 2008, I had an ideal life. I was working part-time for a chemical company as a supply chain implementation lead, and I was a part-time stay at home mom in the suburbs of Richmond, Virginia. It felt like I…

Read more

Cross-Country Culture Shocks and Confidence Gains

For my ninth move as a Navy wife, I traded in Seattle’s jeans-and-tattoos vibe for the power suits, prestige, and politics of Washington, D.C.

Read more

Yesterday’s Gone; Tomorrow Will Be Here

Since Fleetwood Mac’s Christine McVie died in November, I’ve been listening to “As Long As You Follow” on repeat, remembering how I once joked that it was the perfect song for the career expat.

Read more

My Long and Winding Road

My unpredictable life’s journey, complete with stumbles and rocky patches, has held me in good stead as an expat spouse.

Read more

Stranger in Many Strange Lands

My journey as a trailing spouse began with my wife’s job offer with the U.N. High Commissioner for Refugees in Ukraine. Six years later, we were fleeing for our lives.

Read more

From One Trailing Spouse to Another: Hang In There, Meghan (and Harry)

Isn’t it amazing how we can see the same thing and come to such wildly different conclusions?

Read more

Unexpected Yet Inevitable: My Colorful Life in India

From Paris to London to Delhi, “Mademoiselle Prune” offers a fashion-forward spin on trailing spouse life.

Read more
    Expat ExperiencesTrailing Kids

    Playing the Cards You’re Dealt

    by Hilda Johannsen April 8, 2025
    by Hilda Johannsen

    My full name is Hilda Denize Pinto Samo Gudo Johannsen. Yes, you might want to think twice before asking me to spell it all out! I’m Brazilian, my husband is German, and we have lived in Mozambique, Moldova, Indonesia, and now India. 

    Read more
    3 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Uncategorized

    ‘Tis the Season for Giving… And Sharing Stories

    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte November 19, 2024
    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte

    Got a story about making the most of your partner-prompted relocation? Share it with us for a chance to win a $100 USD (or equivalent) gift card!

    Read more
    0 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Book ClubDriving DistanceExpat ExperiencesTrailing Kids

    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 5)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale July 9, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    After accompanying her husband across two continents, Michelle found herself taking an early retirement in Goa — her home. Or was it?

    Read more
    1 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Book ClubCareer TransitionsExpat ExperiencesTrailing Kids

    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 4)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale June 25, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    Michelle spent 18 years as a trailing spouse in three countries before moving back to India — where her adjustment adventures continued, after all.

    Read more
    0 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Book ClubExpat Experiences

    Summer Reading for Towing & Trailing Spouses

    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte June 16, 2024
    by Nicole Neroulias Gupte

    If summertime happens to be when you feel a yearning for some new reading material, here’s a trio of options for trailing and towing spouses alike.

    Read more
    1 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Book ClubCareer TransitionsExpat ExperiencesTrailing Kids

    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 3)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale May 28, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    After five years in Bangkok, including the last two as a split household while my husband worked in London and our son finished high school, our family reunited in (cold, wet, gray) London.

    Read more
    0 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Career TransitionsExpat ExperiencesTrailing Kids

    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 2)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale May 14, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    After a decade of expat life in Dubai, my husband was transferred to Thailand. Our family welcomed the opportunity to learn about a new culture — both modern and with a long, rich history. 

    Read more
    4 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Book ClubExpat ExperiencesTrailing Kids

    Before Becoming Goan: A Trailing-Spouse Story (Part 1)

    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale April 30, 2024
    by Michelle Mendonça Bambawale

    Before writing ‘Becoming Goan,’ I became an expat, following my husband from India to Dubai on the first of several corporate relocations over 18 years.

    Read more
    1 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Book ClubExpat ExperiencesTrailing Kids

    Empty Nest at Home, Full Lives Ahead

    by Florence Reisch March 31, 2024
    by Florence Reisch

    For anyone who has spent decades as an expat trailing spouse, seeing your children leave the nest and your husband become a stay-at-home retiree is a major change of life, dynamics and pace.

    Read more
    0 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
  • Expat ExperiencesTrailing Kids

    Far From Home — And Each Other

    by Florence Reisch February 27, 2024
    by Florence Reisch

    One of my biggest expat challenges was our long-distance “split family” life. For 8 years, my husband spent weekdays working in South Asia, and weekends with us in Dubai.

    Read more
    0 FacebookTwitterPinterestLinkedinEmail
Load More Posts

Share Your Story

Facebook Twitter Linkedin Email

Executive Editor

Executive Editor

Nicole Neroulias Gupte

Fourth-generation trailing spouse whose partner's career has prompted three cross-country moves and one across-the-world move... so far!

Categories

  • Book Club (23)
  • Bucket Listing (11)
  • Career Transitions (33)
  • Coaching (11)
  • Driving Distance (24)
  • Expat Experiences (60)
  • Featured (13)
  • Military Moves (11)
  • Trailing Kids (38)
  • Uncategorized (1)

About Us

banner

Trailing-Spouse.com celebrates the grit and creativity of trailing spouses everywhere.

Popular Posts

  • 1

    Introducing the Gupte Scale

    October 24, 2019
  • 2

    What’s a Trailing Spouse?

    October 19, 2019
  • 3

    How Expat Life Prepared Me for COVID-19

    April 27, 2020
  • 4

    Remembering Ruth Bader Ginsburg — and Marty, Too

    September 19, 2020
  • 5

    Best Books for Happy Trails

    December 9, 2019

Newsletter

Love Trailing-Spouse adventures and advice? Sign up for our quarterly newsletter!




  • Facebook
  • Twitter
  • Pinterest
  • Linkedin
  • Email

@2024 Nicole Neroulias Gupte | All Rights Reserved


Back To Top